Category: 
Dear Dr Dot Connector:
This is a 2 part question. First, I’m going through a pretty major life change and have a blessing and a curse at the same time. My wife and I have just moved from Boston to NYC because of a great job opp for my wife. She has always been on a career path and has that part of her life under control. I, on the other hand, have worked in a variety of fields but never for a long period of time (2-3 years for any given field). I’ve worked retail, the imprinting industry, food service and even medical billing, among others.
I’m now torn between doing the same ole’, same ole’ or creating something different in NYC (I’ve also been a musical performer and am toying with the idea of being an entertainer given that I’m in a city like NYC). Like I said, it’s a curse and a blessing, and I’m both excited and scared, but wanted to know if you have any insight (which I know you always do).
Secondly, have you ever thought of doing a conference call with different topics that people could pay for and join at scheduled times? I was just on a real estate call and thought that I would love to be on a call that you conducted.
Thank you,
Mr. Transition
Mr. Transition,
The blessing is clear to me. Where’s the curse? You have an opportunity to carve out a new life for yourself, in a new place. There are limitless possibilities. Where’s the curse in that? One thing to be aware of is how automatically you add the curse into your life, as though it’s assumed that every blessing must carry a curse with it. I’m sure you have reasons for saying it that way, but those reasons have nothing to do with your current situation. There was no curse until you brought it.
So, that’s step one. From a contextual standpoint, stop creating your life as cursed. Nothing you create will succeed within that context.
Step two is to do the math. How much income do you need to create and by when? Obviously, you’d rather start some brilliant, new and exciting venture with vast income potential then to go back to the same ole’, same ole’. The question is, can you cover the investment of creating a venture like that (it takes money to make money) or do you need to generate income immediately? Do the math. When you know how much income you need to be responsible for, you can make educated choices about what direction(s) you pursue.
Step three is to move to toward your vision for your life, no matter where you are now. I say this because so many people suffer from the absence of strategic thinking. If you have to do the same ole’, same ole’, then think about where you do it, and be strategic about it. If you want to get into entertainment, get a same ole’, same ole’ job in the entertainment industry, and work every angle you can find to advance your position in the direction of your goals. There are same ole’, same ole’ jobs EVERYWHERE! Pick one that gets you closer to your vision, and exposes you to the kinds of people and opportunities that will help you move toward your goals.
In answer to your second question, I have thought of doing conference calls, and I think they’re a great idea. I’d like to start offering something like that in the near future. Thank you for letting me know that you’re interested.
All the Best,
Possibly related:
